A Disappointing Cookie
My daughter, who is a marvelous cook, made a batch of Snickerdoodle cookies for our Sunday treat. She loves to try new recipes and more often than not they turn out great. I believe you know where I am going with this one. As she watched them bake they got flatter and flatter, stretched out and baked together. As she placed them on the cooling rack she made the comment that they don't look good. Being the supportive mom that I am, I tried one. Low and behold, they tasted wonderful. Sort of crispy sort of chewy but very good and yummy. (Yes, I ate more than my share)
So, where am I going with this, you may ask? At the same time as the cookie debacle I was thinking of something to write for this post. She said "Hey, you could use my cookies as an analogy. Just because something goes wrong, doesn't make you a bad person." Cue the light bulb!
Beating ourselves up because things don't go as planned is a common occurrence. How often do we cut ourselves down because of mistakes that have been made. If we dwell on these blunders they can cause our self esteem to plummet. My daughter isn't a bad cook she just choose a recipe that didn't cooperate. Same thing with our mistakes. Sometimes we choose or do something that doesn't go the way we intended it to. There are always ways to come back from that bad batch of cookies, so to speak.
There are countless self-help books and resources for overcoming and moving on from mistakes. All have he same message and that is you are not a bad person. Being able to forgive ourselves and make amends makes us stronger and along the same lines, we learn.
In my kitchen hangs a sign that says, Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining. Use this as a stepping stone. What did you learn from the experience? How can it help you? Did you gain a new understanding or did it aid you in finding a new direction that put you on a better path? We are always learning, always striving to be better and mistakes will happen. Moving on from them is key to success.
Cut yourself some slack. If my girl had quit baking after her first kitchen mishap she wouldn't have found something she enjoys doing. The same goes for each of us. It could be that we had a major mom-fail one day, wrecked the car, burned dinner, said something we regret or failed at a relationship. We aren't bad people, we are human. Learn to love yourself for all your flaws, faults, faux pas and fallacies. We are like the Snickerdoodles, We may have messed up but on the inside we are still as fantastic as ever.
Love much,
Heather
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